Sexual fantasies are a very important part of sex life, being a natural expression of our sexuality. If you experience lack of sexual desire or your sex life turned into a routine, thinking sexy might bring back the joy of physical love.

First of all, you should accept your sexual fantasies and do not fear them. Very often we fantasize about forbidden things, like sex with strangers or threesome sex and this might lead us to feelings of guilt and shame. However, this doesn't necessarily indicate that you are perverted and your partner doesn't suit you anymore. Fantasies tell about our imagination and when applied to your intimate life, it can stimulate your libido and bring positive changes into your sex life.

Women having abundant sexual imagination are said to be more satisfied in their intimate life. So how can you develop your sexuality using your fantasies?

There are many ways to make your imagination run wild, watching erotic movies, reading erotic literature and exploring your inner desires.

• Think about the scene that makes your feel sensual and desired. May be you dream a deserted island or secretly think of sex in public, imagining less comfortable elevator or toilet? Keep in mind that ion your fantasy you are free to fulfill your forbidden desires and no one will blame you for your behavior.
• Fantasize about role-playing. You might secretly wish to play a role of a dominant woman who is adored by her partner or otherwise dream about being an innocent girl who is seduced by a strong man. Experiment with different roles to know what arouses you the most. During your sexual exploration you may discover something new about your own desires.
• You may fulfill some of your fantasies in reality with your partner. Of course, there is no need to make every fantasy true especially if the consequences of such experiment can be harmful to your sex life. But if you think that it may improve your relationships, then your first step would be to share your sexual fantasies with your partner. You both can decide to introduce role-playing to set the scene you long imagined in your head.
• If fulfilling your sex fantasies is unacceptable you can always find an alternative. For example, if you fantasize about having sex with two or more partners but would never do it in real life, you might use sex toys to to incorporate them in your sex plays. This won't hurt your relationships and make your fantasy true.

Many women facing the problem of sexual abstinence may feel quite frustrated without sexual intimacy. There are different reasons why you might not have sex and definitely one of the most common is lack of partner.

First of all, you should understand that your sex life should not just end up. Your sexuality is not dying, and are just going though a period when you will have to find alternative ways to satisfy your sexual urges.

1. Avoid thoughts that may undermine your self-esteem. Many women think that having no sex makes them less sexual or worse than other women. Such a belief can lead to depression and only make your situation more difficult. It may be hard to think sexy when you need a partner, but living with negative thoughts won't help you find a partner.
2. Masturbation is not forbidden for you and while it cannot fully compensate a partner, it will relieve your tension and won't let you forget about your sexual needs. Having solo sex should not be a shame and many women masturbate even having a partner. Also many women claim that they can more easily orgasm through masturbation. Use this time for your own satisfaction and do not be afraid to play with sex toys and use them to explore your hidden erogenous zones.
3. Indulge in body pleasures. Massage or sauna and aroma bath may become a good way feel sensual again. Get in touch with your senses, touching silk or fur or smelling pleasant odors. You might also want to please yourself with chocolate or other delicious food. Just try not to overindulge in eating as you might soon need to lose weight rather than worry about sexual abstinence.
4. Do not shy away from other people. Hugging with your relatives and friends may somehow help you compensate for the lack of intimate contacts.
5. Physical activity might be helpful, as it will channel your energy in other direction. Besides, staying fit will help you deal with stresses and look healthy, which contributes to better interest from the opposite sex.

Many women and their partners would try for years to find a G-spot, the female erogenous zone that is claimed to trigger powerful orgasms. It is still quite controversial whether G-spot really exists, but those women who were lucky to find G-spot would probably agree that it really brings enormous pleasure and satisfaction to their sexual experience.

The G-spot, named after German gynecologist Ernst Grafenberg is a sensitive spot on the front vaginal wall that brings strong orgasmic response in a woman. G-spot is not so difficult to locate if you are willing to explore your genitals.

There are different ways to locate G-spot and derive maximum pleasure. One of the most important things to remember while you start searching for the elusive spot is to become aroused. When you are not aroused, finding G-spot may be quite difficult or even unpleasant. If you are alone, you may fantasize and masturbate, if you explore G-spot with your partner- a good foreplay would be of help. Once you feel that your genitals become moist and tender you may slowly insert a finger or a sex toy about two inches inside the vagina and once you feel a rough surface that resembles a walnut, you may start rubbing and applying some pressure on a G-spot. At some point you may have the feeling as though you want to urinate - that's normal and is explained by the fact that you press against the urethra.

Even the more effective way to derive pleasure from G-spot stimulation is to stimulate clitoris at the same time. You may use a vibrator or ask your partner to give you oral sex while inserting his fingers to stimulate your G-spot. Usually it triggers powerful response and may lead to orgasm and even female ejaculation.

Some tips:
1. Use a pillow to place under your butt to regulate the angle. You may also experiment with G-spot stimulation lying on your back or on your belly.
2. Try different positions: lifting your legs over your partner's shoulders or having sex in doggy style.
3. Do not feel embarrassed if you occasionally pee or ejaculate with a liquid. This is quite normal and you may explain it to your partner.

It is true that reaching an orgasm during the intercourse can be very difficult for many women. However, those who were lucky enough to cum together with their partner often have some experience before they get to know the highest sexual pleasure. What's the secret and is it possible for a women to learn how to experience orgasm?

Here are some techniques that may not only increase your pleasure during the intercourse but also help you reach the big O together with your partner.

1. Right angle

Experiment with sex position to find which one contributes to higher pleasure for you. You may not know what is best for you if you have sex in missionary position only. Very often a woman may discover her orgasm once she changes the usual sex position. The thing is that in certain positions your sensitive spots, like G-spot and clitoris are stimulated better. Do not be afraid to try new positions to experience exciting sexual sensations. Doggy style, missionary position with legs raised to the shoulders, cowgirl and many others may bring you ultimate pleasure you never had before.

2. Expression

You may not be able to experience orgasm only because you unconsciously do not let yourself express your emotions openly. During orgasm you lose control over your reactions and feel the total release. If you feel awkward or embarrassed about your actions during orgasm it can seriously affect your ability to have orgasm. You should let it go and understand that all the reactions during orgasm are natural.

3. Build up the arousal

You may need a longer foreplay to become aroused and this is necessary to tell to your partner about it. The more aroused you become before the penetration, the more chances are for you to reach the peak. Ask your partner for sensual massage or talk dirty if it excites you. Guide your partner during a foreplay so that he had a more clear vision of what brings you the most pleasure.

4. Self-stimulation

If you know that you need clitoral stimulation, and during intercourse you get little of it, the only way to assure you enough stimulation is to take the responsibility for your own orgasm. Talk to your partner and ask if it is ok with him for you to stimulate yourself during the intercourse. You can use some sex toys or just your hands to speed up the climax. But it is important to feel comfortable with your partner while you stimulate yourself.

5. Sex fantasy

Brain is the biggest sexual organ and your fantasies play a big role for your orgasm. Think about things or situations that you never dared to fulfill in reality. Sex fantasies are a big part of our sexuality and give a great potential for your body to feel the earth-shaking sensations. You may share your fantasies while watching adult movies with your partner or reading books or while engaging in role-playing. Fantasizing may also enrich your sex repertoire thus making your sex life richer.

Do you use sex toys for pleasure only? It is time to learn something from sex toys This will keep you fit until you find a reliable partner and give you some knowledge about your sexual potential.
What can you learn from sex toys?

Satisfaction

Many women who are single due to different reasons: either they had no luck in finding the right partner and didn't want to engage in casual sex or divorced. The reality is that most of those women who do not want to have multiple partners but want to have a sex life that would meet their needs, find it difficult to sustain months and years of celibacy. If sexual frustration is unbearable to you, there are several ways to help yourself cope with a forced celibacy. Using sex toys you may feel satisfied on any time regardless of having a sexual partner or not.

Orgasm

While only 30 percent of women orgasm from sexual intercourse, the rest may need clitoral stimulation to reach the desired big O. How do women climax then? The most common way to achieve orgasm is by masturbating. Thus you may not only get to know what brings you to the peak of pleasure, but also be in better control of your own sexual response. When you are alone, you can use just as much time and try as many techniques as you need.
There is a great variety of sex toys that may help you experience vaginal, clitoral, G-spot and other forms of orgasm.

Sex techniques

Ever thought about improving your sex skills? You have some options, including sex lessons performed on sex toys that mimic real body parts. Nowadays there are a lot of realistic sex toys that allow you to practice oral, anal and vaginal sex without having to worry how you are going to look in front of your partner. You simply learn the skills and later show your partner a perfect performance.

Comfortable sex

Let's face it, many of us go through certain difficulties in our intimate life, dealing with erectile dysfunction, painful intercourse, early ejaculation and other problems that may influence our sex life. There is always a way out if you experience some of these obstacles and sex toys may aid you to deal with them. Surely, sex toys cannot simply solve your sex problems but they may become a helpful tool to live a full sexual life. Such devices as penis pumps or dildos may not be only the pleasure things, but more like your handy helper in many situations.

In 1905 Sigmund Freud wrote his famous book "Three Essays on Theory of Sexuality" in which he said that at first, being a teenager, a girl experiences clitoral orgasm that is achieved through masturbation and after some time a mature woman begins experiencing vaginal orgasm that is achieved during sexual intercourse. He supposed that the clitoris is a kind of intermediary that transmits arousal to surrounding genital areas. He compared the clitoris to a sliver that is used to burn more solid fuel.

He was convinced that the vagina, rather than clitoris should be the zone that is responsible for orgasm.

The awfullest thing about this theory is that Freud called women who never achieved orgasm without direct stimulation of clitoris immature and (or) frigid! The famous psychiatrist, the author of the theory of human psychosexuality was absolutely wrong, and that has been proven by scientists who have found out that the overwhelming majority of women need direct stimulation of clitoris to achieve orgasm.

According to scientific data about 70 percent women need clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm. Some scientists say that this figure is even bigger, that is about 80 percent, i.e overwhelming majority.

However, the myth turned out to be very hardy. Millions of women still consider themselves to be immature or even frigid, since they cannot achieve orgasm during sexual intercourse. Why does it happen? It happens because an ignorant partner does not know that the only thing his partner needs to achieve clitoral stimulation (during foreplay or intercourse) with fingers or tongue, and the problem will be solved. However, often this does not happen.

The question is: who is "sexually normal" - the remaining 30 or even 20 percent of women or the majority for whom intercourse without clitoral stimulation is not enough to achieve orgasm? May be not all men read Freud's works. May be they came across the myth about "frigidity" of women who do not achieve vaginal orgasm (i.e orgasm that is achieved during sexual intercourse) somewhere else.

May be it is so popular due to men's laziness: it is much easier to say that a woman is abnormal, rather than to do something to help her achieve orgasm. Also here some prejudices play a large part here. Some people still think that only intercourse is normal, while all other kinds of sexual stimulation are "perversion".

Here is the result: millions of women who can achieve orgasm only through manual (with hand or finger) or oral (lips, tongue) stimulation of clitoris (or with help of a sex toy, for instance a clitoral vibrator) consider themselves to be "abnormal", "immature" or even "frigid".

When writing his essay Freud confused male and female sexuality. The overwhelming majority of men achieve orgasm during sexual intercourse, and inability of a man to cum during intercourse is considered to be a abnormality – at least because this prevents a couple from conceiving, to say nothing of psychological problems. Why should women be like men?

Most organs are virtually the same in men and women, but men and women have different genitals! Why wasn't this taken into account?

There is the other side of the coin. In the beginning of the century most doctors were men. They imposed on women behavior and reactions that seemed attractive to them.

A woman who always cums during sexual intercourse without additional efforts is a man's dream. This is a dream and only a dream, it is not a law and not a rule. Orgasm - is a fantastic feeling, no matter how it is achieved!

Many women are concerned about the time it takes them to reach the desired big O. Some of you may never experience sexual release with your partner. However, a lot more women admit they reach orgasm during masturbation. Why didn't it happen during the intercourse?

First of all, during a partner game you interact with your partner and whether you want it or not you partly depend on your partner's skills and understanding. He may not know that little start button to bring you fireworks and you may not give him a clue. That's a stumble point of most problems in sexual relationships. Sometimes women are not even aware about they own sensitivity and response to different stimulation. This knowledge may come through the experience you gain with your partner or through self-exploration.

Orgasm during masturbation is easy to reach first of all because you are focused on yourself only, you usually stimulate your most sensitive zone (for most women it's a clitoris) and you are completely in control of all the process.

So how does your orgasmic ability through masturbation fit into partner's play? Let's say you always orgasm from masturbation when you stimulate your clitoris and ask yourself - do you receive this type of stimulation during the intercourse? If your answer is no than how do you expect to experience orgasm with your partner.

The first thing to do in this regard is either to ask your partner to stimulate your clitoris during a foreplay either orally or with his hand or find a right position to involve this very receptive zone into partner's play. Be open to use different techniques be it a sex toy or your own hands. There is no shame to express yourself sexually as long as you want to experience real pleasure.

In the end, orgasm may happen suddenly when you least expect it, but you should keep in mind on very important thing- if you feel comfortable and relaxed, you are quite consent with sexual pleasure you feel during the intercourse, then orgasm is just one step closer.

Very often women refuse to go beyond certain limits in sexual relationships out of certain fears or prejudiced attitude towards certain practices. And in many cases, men are more enthusiastic to broaden sexual experience and try new things but face their partner's unwillingness to break taboos.

Why does it happen and what can be done in this situation?

First of all, there must be said that all of us have different attitudes towards sex. For many years we have been taught that sex is dirty and something you definitely shouldn't talk about. The shame and guilt associated with one of the most powerful physical expressions of love did their job to make us believe that sex is a bad thing at the worst.

In this situation you may need to ask yourself: do you really wish to improve you sex life? If the answer yes, then first step is to change your view on sex and relationships. It's important to understand that everything that happens between people who trust and love each other is not dirty as long as both enjoy it.

Sex is dirty if you think of it that way, but in fact we have sex to get and give pleasure. And there are dozens of ways to get the most from this pleasure.

Second, take into account your partner's needs. They may seem unusual or strange to you, still it's not the reason to call him a pervert.

Feel comfortable with your body to experience all range of sensations from sex. If you always question yourself if you look good enough you cannot relax and enjoy sexual act in full. One man said that he always had sex in a missionary position with his wife because she didn't let him.

Of course, there can be different reasons for such attitude towards sex, but in the end it leads to dissatisfaction and deprives a couple from the pleasure they can have. Different sex positions are meant not only for variety. For many women, the crucial point when they start enjoying the intercourse is the right angle during penetration when a G-spot is stimulated. If a woman doesn't let herself feel free and experiment with different sexual positions she may never have the possibility to know about her sexuality.

1.Wait for something unbelievable

2.Control yourself

3.Think about urgent duties

4.Hide your body

5.Don't talk to him

1. I had the best sex ever but I had no orgasm
   
   "Good sex is not about orgasm". This has been a major stumbling point for centuries and still remains beyond the common comprehension for most men. If a man wants a woman he naturally expects to cum from the intercourse. Sex without a final "shot" is simply a nonsense for a healthy man. For a woman -orgasm is a good and desirable thing but she can be just as well or even more satisfied with the process of lovemaking without reaching the big O.


2. It's all in the mind
   
   How do men and women reach orgasm? Men do not need to scratch over their head to know what is wrong with their mood or what body area is most receptive at the moment. For a woman orgasm is more a result of mind and body exploration rather than a physical experience alone. Just the fact that some women can experience orgasm from hearing the sounds of "raindrops falling" can be enough to split men's brain in two. Would he admit the truth about penis being not a main character in the erotic scenario? Never.


3. Orgasm is a coincidence
   
   Female orgasm, as a rule, is very hard to achieve when you set the task of reaching it. The most usual way men proceed to satisfying their women is by using a a whole range of sex techniques. While this can be all useful to some extent, orgasm may still not occur if the conditions are wrong. Again, these conditions are mainly linked to woman's mind more than her body. The slight feeling of being not appreciated(even if it's what seems to her) may ruin a two-hour foreplay and hot intercourse in a second. Actually, her orgasm may happen just suddenly when you least expect it simply because when you are relaxed and are not anxious about reaching orgasm you become more attuned to sexual response, which naturally leads to the physical outburst.



4. There are many of them
   
   Start counting: disputed vaginal, wide-spread clitoral, intricate nipple, mind-blowing multiple, long-waited simultaneous while do not forget they all can be replaced by unbeaten fake orgasm! Orgasm may occur from so many stimuli - it's a question of being able to open up to individual sexual side inside you.


5. ...and they are all different
   
   The debates over clitoral overpowering vaginal orgasm, G-spot being a trigger of vaginal orgasm, anal orgasm as existent or non-existent, nipple orgasm as another kind of orgasm can be endless. Just in short- women are not restricted to experience one orgasm and this gives unlimited opportunities for them to feel all the colors of"orgasm" that has so many expressions for one woman that hardly fits one small word.

1. So, let us begin. Step one is creating the appropriate environment. It's the simplest stage, and your actions for generating intimate atmosphere may only be limited by your fantasy.





2. At the same time, some tips seem to be essential. Mind the temperature of the room as you're going to lay naked for a long time without the possibility to hide under the blanket. Pay attention to the music. It is not so important what exactly you're going to listen (some people may well consider Rammstein to be a chill-out soundtrack), just make sure you have set the replay as it's essential to concentrate on the process of continuous massage not on CDs changing. Make sure that kids, pets and neighbors won't disturb you, lock the door and turn off the phones.



3. Choose any hard surface. If your bedroom is not equipped with a special massage bed (I bet it's not), position your partner cross ways at an angle on your usual bed and prepare some pillows.



4. Mind that you should use lubricants for a good massage and take care of their placing within easy reach.



5. Next step is taking hot bath or shower.



6. Now you are ready to begin the massage itself. The introduction will be a simple relaxing massage.



7. First, put massage oil in your hands and make sure they are warm enough.
   
   Let your partner lay face down. Place the pillows underneath the ankles and underneath the hip area. Use a sheet to cover your partner and little by little remove it from the areas you visit.



8. Move from the back to the shoulders, then arms and hands. Massage your partner's butt, legs, and feet. When performing this relaxing massage try to constantly keep your hands in contact with the partner's skin. Try to be rhythmic. Interchange long gliding strokes and deeper ones. One of the secret of a good massager is to use the body weight rather than arm strength - it helps not to get tired too early.



9. Now turn your partner to a face up. It's a very exiting moment as both of you are naked, and though you go on performing relaxing massage, it becomes more and more erotic from now.



10. Reposition the pillows to the back of the neck and the knee area. Begin with the face, and then move to the chest, arms, legs and top of the feet. When moving down to the legs brush the genitals as it were incidentally.



11. After finishing the fronts of the legs and feet, brush over the genitals again, this time more slowly. Repeat these simple trick several times and watch your partner's feedback, as at this moment you are finishing your introduction and going to start the most interesting part.