Many women are concerned about the time it takes them to reach the desired big O. Some of you may never experience sexual release with your partner. However, a lot more women admit they reach orgasm during masturbation. Why didn't it happen during the intercourse?
First of all, during a partner game you interact with your partner and whether you want it or not you partly depend on your partner's skills and understanding. He may not know that little start button to bring you fireworks and you may not give him a clue. That's a stumble point of most problems in sexual relationships. Sometimes women are not even aware about they own sensitivity and response to different stimulation. This knowledge may come through the experience you gain with your partner or through self-exploration.
Orgasm during masturbation is easy to reach first of all because you are focused on yourself only, you usually stimulate your most sensitive zone (for most women it's a clitoris) and you are completely in control of all the process.
So how does your orgasmic ability through masturbation fit into partner's play? Let's say you always orgasm from masturbation when you stimulate your clitoris and ask yourself - do you receive this type of stimulation during the intercourse? If your answer is no than how do you expect to experience orgasm with your partner.
The first thing to do in this regard is either to ask your partner to stimulate your clitoris during a foreplay either orally or with his hand or find a right position to involve this very receptive zone into partner's play. Be open to use different techniques be it a sex toy or your own hands. There is no shame to express yourself sexually as long as you want to experience real pleasure.
In the end, orgasm may happen suddenly when you least expect it, but you should keep in mind on very important thing- if you feel comfortable and relaxed, you are quite consent with sexual pleasure you feel during the intercourse, then orgasm is just one step closer.